The ten steps to change the teenager
الاثنين، 9 نوفمبر 2009
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The ten steps to change the teenager
1. The first step : sit with it /
The sitting kinds • :
1. The superiority : that you are sitting and he is standing .
The message • : understand . I I know from you and I am higher from you a honor and a knowledge .
The result • : the obstinacy and the obstinacy .
2. The lower : you are standing and he is sitting .
The message • : I am stronger from you and can slap you and I attack you at any moment .
The result • : the fear and the weakness of the character .
3. The moderate : the teenager same level and with its confrontation and the approach from it .
The message • : I love you .
The result • : the reassurance and the frankness .
1. The first step : sit with it /
The sitting kinds • :
1. The superiority : that you are sitting and he is standing .
The message • : understand . I I know from you and I am higher from you a honor and a knowledge .
The result • : the obstinacy and the obstinacy .
2. The lower : you are standing and he is sitting .
The message • : I am stronger from you and can slap you and I attack you at any moment .
The result • : the fear and the weakness of the character .
3. The moderate : the teenager same level and with its confrontation and the approach from it .
The message • : I love you .
The result • : the reassurance and the frankness .
• where do you sit with him :
1. In a familiar place .
2. Distant from the people's eyes .
3. In it a privacy and a secrecy .
4. He prefers outside the house or a place that changed the problem occurrence place .
5. The change and the moving prefer if the time was long .
• when do you sit with him :
1. At a time where a diversion doesn't follow .
2. In an enough time to the teenager that he says what it have .
3. In other than the special daily habit times ( the sleep, the food .. others ) . 4 . the morning time better than the evening .
5 . in times or intermittent periods .
2. The second step :
1. In a familiar place .
2. Distant from the people's eyes .
3. In it a privacy and a secrecy .
4. He prefers outside the house or a place that changed the problem occurrence place .
5. The change and the moving prefer if the time was long .
• when do you sit with him :
1. At a time where a diversion doesn't follow .
2. In an enough time to the teenager that he says what it have .
3. In other than the special daily habit times ( the sleep, the food .. others ) . 4 . the morning time better than the evening .
5 . in times or intermittent periods .
2. The second step :
she doesn't rebuff him ( the kindness and the softness ) /
• noticed in this :
- the consideration of the tone in the talk with it is that she don't be sharp at any time .
- the consideration of the slowness in the talk so that she makes sure that the teenager hears all its desired word .
- an eloquence and the clarity of word and phrase are with the use of the phrases that the young man understands .
3. The third step : he made feel it to safety /
• the teenager should feel the safety and the confidence and that the aim is the remoteness from the bad habits and the rejected mistakes and the achievement of that can its consideration :
- in the session form with the approach from it without waving with the hand .
- by the quiet sound without a grumble or a complaint .
- with giving it enough opportunity so that he expresses himself .
4. The fourth step : he talked with it /
• realizes in this step an importance :
- the talk with it with the presentation of the problem and the clarification of its danger, the extent of our concern for its protection and the possibility of our hearing from it, and the possibility of our permission for it about it .
- the non- hunt is its mistakes during the talk with it, the promise of its boycott is whenever we found a contradiction or a mistake, because we may modify it about the frankness with this acting .
- the use of the style of the personal recognition, so that the teenager recognize from himself on himself with the mistake that he fell in, and this is by the question, not direct and leading to the direct answer .
- the concern for many questions that forms their answers by ( no ) if the aim was the prevention of the young man, and many questions that form their answers by ( yes ) if the aim pushed the young man, so that their repetition doesn't decrease less than ten times in the same situa
5. The fifth step : he mastered listening to it /
• and for the listening in a better way it's a must to consider :
- the non- staring at the teenager eye, but the look at it quietly .
- listening to the words with the suitable care .
- the attention to the physical signals ( the Al-Ayn place, the tightened lips, the tense hand, the face expressions and its changes, the session way .. others ) . & # 61607 ; the reduction of the boycott or the distraction about it ( with regard to another place, a sound opened the door, listening to the radio . others ) . & # 61607 ; the attention to its tone, with the interaction with it .
6. The sixth step : give him the freedom of choice /
Fields • it's possible to give the option to the teenager in it :
- the solution ways to the problem .
- the sanction and its amount .
- the reward and the way of getting it .
- the style of the execution of the required costs .
7. The seventh step : he encouraged him at the achievement /
The incentives
• noticed in this :
- the consideration of the tone in the talk with it is that she don't be sharp at any time .
- the consideration of the slowness in the talk so that she makes sure that the teenager hears all its desired word .
- an eloquence and the clarity of word and phrase are with the use of the phrases that the young man understands .
3. The third step : he made feel it to safety /
• the teenager should feel the safety and the confidence and that the aim is the remoteness from the bad habits and the rejected mistakes and the achievement of that can its consideration :
- in the session form with the approach from it without waving with the hand .
- by the quiet sound without a grumble or a complaint .
- with giving it enough opportunity so that he expresses himself .
4. The fourth step : he talked with it /
• realizes in this step an importance :
- the talk with it with the presentation of the problem and the clarification of its danger, the extent of our concern for its protection and the possibility of our hearing from it, and the possibility of our permission for it about it .
- the non- hunt is its mistakes during the talk with it, the promise of its boycott is whenever we found a contradiction or a mistake, because we may modify it about the frankness with this acting .
- the use of the style of the personal recognition, so that the teenager recognize from himself on himself with the mistake that he fell in, and this is by the question, not direct and leading to the direct answer .
- the concern for many questions that forms their answers by ( no ) if the aim was the prevention of the young man, and many questions that form their answers by ( yes ) if the aim pushed the young man, so that their repetition doesn't decrease less than ten times in the same situa
5. The fifth step : he mastered listening to it /
• and for the listening in a better way it's a must to consider :
- the non- staring at the teenager eye, but the look at it quietly .
- listening to the words with the suitable care .
- the attention to the physical signals ( the Al-Ayn place, the tightened lips, the tense hand, the face expressions and its changes, the session way .. others ) . & # 61607 ; the reduction of the boycott or the distraction about it ( with regard to another place, a sound opened the door, listening to the radio . others ) . & # 61607 ; the attention to its tone, with the interaction with it .
6. The sixth step : give him the freedom of choice /
Fields • it's possible to give the option to the teenager in it :
- the solution ways to the problem .
- the sanction and its amount .
- the reward and the way of getting it .
- the style of the execution of the required costs .
7. The seventh step : he encouraged him at the achievement /
The incentives
• includes the moral matters as the thanks, the praise and showing the satisfaction with it, and the material matters as the present and offering an interest of it and coming up with it of a specific place, and he means by the incentives a non proper behavior change or a stability and the consolidation of Hassan's behavior .
8. The eighth step : a consequence at the carelessness /
• from the punishment forms :
- its deprivation of some of its beloved or the reduction from them .
- the blame and the verbal punishment as the speech with it strongly .
- its loss from some of its rights like its prevention from the expenditure or the exit with its friends .
- its loss for the reward promised it at the achievement .
- its hitting if necessary, but he is the treatment another one .
9. The ninth step : make for it a field for the return /
• and that with its acceptance after the change, and a forgetfulness not was from it, and as it was said : the fair father is the one that its consideration changes from its son whenever its son changed and with opening the field therefore at the talk with it about what is wanted its change .
10. The tenth step : the prayer /
• and this step on two sides :
- the first : the invitation of it by the unknown, and in front of it that Allah changes it to what he is better .
- the second : he urged him on the invitation always that he calls Allah that it changes it to what he is better .
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8. The eighth step : a consequence at the carelessness /
• from the punishment forms :
- its deprivation of some of its beloved or the reduction from them .
- the blame and the verbal punishment as the speech with it strongly .
- its loss from some of its rights like its prevention from the expenditure or the exit with its friends .
- its loss for the reward promised it at the achievement .
- its hitting if necessary, but he is the treatment another one .
9. The ninth step : make for it a field for the return /
• and that with its acceptance after the change, and a forgetfulness not was from it, and as it was said : the fair father is the one that its consideration changes from its son whenever its son changed and with opening the field therefore at the talk with it about what is wanted its change .
10. The tenth step : the prayer /
• and this step on two sides :
- the first : the invitation of it by the unknown, and in front of it that Allah changes it to what he is better .
- the second : he urged him on the invitation always that he calls Allah that it changes it to what he is better .
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